Best Of 2022: Caring with Kat Vellos

Author and friendship researcher, Kat Vellos, says that in an age of overwhelm and burnout, we have to keep on caring. How do we begin?
Best Of 2022: Caring with Kat Vellos
Published December 21, 2022

In our most listened-to episode of 2022, author Kat Vellos (KatVellos.com) told us she is tired of hearing people on social media tell this one story: “I’m out of f**ks to give!”

While the declaration started out as good-humored—a way to jest and say, “I’m just so over it!”—today, she says, the story behind the saying now reeks of toxic individualism.

In a world that needs more caring—and, in which people who care about bad outcomes are doing a lot of harm—Kat encourages us to take pride in caring, even more.

But how do we care even more when it feels so hard to keep caring?

Kat Vellos is an author, speaker, facilitator, researcher, and former user experience designer who is on a mission to help people to experience greater authentic connections with each other, and healthy friendships in their personal lives.

She is the author of two books, We Should Get Together: The Secret to Cultivating Better Friendships and Connected from Afar: A Guide for Staying Close When You’re Far Away. Her words and work have been seen across TEDx, The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, Forbes, Fast Company, and dozens of other outlets.

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